Expressed Inclusion: Interest. Desire to include others in what you do.

High—comfortable with others; need others around to enjoy things.

Low—comfortable alone; engages in individual activity.

Wanted Inclusion: Acceptance. Desire to have others include you.

High—Not selective about who you do things with. Wants to be invited to join others.

Low—Selective about who you do things with. Works alone. Doesn’t mind not being incuded.

Expressed Control: Leadership. Amount of decision making responsibility you want.

High—Likes to control situations. Likes to make decisions for yourself and others.

Low—Avoids decision making. Avoids responsibility.

Wanted Control: Guidance. Comfort with others making decisions for you. Confidence/respect for others.

High—Likes others to make decisions. Respects other’s ability to decide.

Low—Low respect for other’s decision making.

Expressed Affection: Liking others. Involvement with others. Sharing of emotions.

High—Readily accepts emotional involvement. Helps others feel nurtured. Strong relationship initiator.

Low—Cautious in sharing emotions. Tends not to initiate relationships.

Wanted Affection: Closeness. Desire for affection; comfort in approaching others.

High—Wants a great deal of affection. Comfortable being approached.

Low—Uncomfortable when other people approach. Uncomfortable with affection from others.